RESPECT
RESPECT
Adab yang berkait dengan hormat menghormati sesama insan amat penting namun sering kali diambil mudah. Mulut petah mengeluarkan kata-kata akan perlunya saling hormat menghormati..telinga pula sudah seringkali mendengar tapi adakah kita benar-benar mengamalkannya. Muhasabah diri~
Bila sudah memasuki alam bekerja, rasanya perkara ini amat dekat sekali. Ketika diawal pekerjaan, ku akui yang perkara berkaitan dengan -RESPECT- tidak ku fahami dengan sebenar-benarnya. Pada anggapanku dengan posisi yang ada, sebarang permintaan dan arahan akan dilakukan dan dilaksanakan tanpa sukar tapi sebenarnya..its not that easy..biar beribu kali dingat dan diberitahu jika tiada sense of respect dari orang yang menerima dan orang yang memberi arahan, perkara yang mudah pun akan menjadi sukar.
"Kita hanya mampu menarik kuda ke sungai,tetapi minum atau tidak, tiada siapa yang boleh memaksanya."
Teringat dengan kata-kata daripada motivator ;
'Apa yang anda lihat adalah apa yang akan anda dapat'
a.k.a
'what you see is what you get'
Mendalam sebenarnya kata-kata ini. Ku akui pada mulanya input yang ku terima ada antaranya yang bersifat negatif. Melabelkan seseorang itu hasil testimoni 'senior', 'orang lama' dan yang seangkatan dengannya. Input yang diterima membentuk tindakan yang akan kita lakukan. Benar, jika kita melabelkan seseorang dengan sesuatu yang negatif tanpa betul-betul mengenalinya (kerana sebelum ini kita mengenali seseorang itu berdasarkan testimoni orang lain dan to make it more incorrect we 'believe that its true!!"..memang salah sama sekali tindakan ini) hasil yang akan kita dapat adalah sepertimana yang kita sangkakan. Jika kita sentiasa set dalam minda kita perkara yang baik-baik dan positif sahaja..alangkah indahnya setiap tindakan kita~
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If we cannot now end our differences,
at least we can help make the world safe for diversity.
-John F. Kennedy
German philosopher Johann Goethe taught, 'Treat a man as he is and he will remain as he is. Treat a man as he can and should be and he will become as he can and should be." In fact, most people respond to being treated with respect by elevating their thoughts and actions to the same level of respect they are given-or beyond.
I always enjoy accounts of seemingly "average" individuals whose lives sparkle and blossom as a result of someone taking an interest in them and treating them with respect. "Johnny Lingo's Eight-Cow Wife" and " A Little Help From a Friend" are two such stories. Both send a powerful message that a parents, spouses, or anyone who leads or works with others should take to heart. "Change of Heart" broadens the principle of respect to include relationships or interactions involving people whose cultures and values may be different from ours.
Everyday Greatness, Stephen R. Covey
Bertepatan juga dengan artikel oleh Stephen R. Covey berkaitan dengan apa yang kita set dalam fikiran akan seseorang itu, hasilnya kita akan dapat sepertimana yang kita fikirkan. Ada timbal baliknya. Jadi berbalik pada bab adab bekerja ini yang kupelajari setakat ini. Bekerja ini adalah teamwork basis-kerjasama berkumpulan dan ia resmi dalam hidup berorganisasi. Mana boleh kita syok sendiri buat dasar pecah dan perintah(actually if rujuk buku pengurusan-management, dasar pecah dan perintah ini tidak praktikal untuk kebanyakan situasi..ada banyak lagi sistem yang terkini yang boleh kita enforce..jangan malas..read as much as you can..jika benar-benar mahu jadi pengurus/pemimpin yang cemerlang). Bagi arahan dan expect orang lain akan follow what ever that we ask for. Yes, things will be done accordingly as you said but your subordinate will do it as it is. Nothings special and maybe it will be sin spot that you will be ask later by the God as you mistreat your employee. Nauzubillah.
Selain itu, bila berorganisasi ini, ku diajar juga akan perlunya juga berbaik sangka dan bergaul mesra dengan semua yang bekerja bersama anda. Siapa kata 'if you bos..you should not be good with your subbordinate?...tak akan hilang bisa ular yang menyusur..you should understand this..each one of them have their own speciality..get close with them and learn things that you should know..take the opportunity..be fast jangan lambat-lambat....' tegas lagi jelas nasihat yang kuterima dari seseorang yang sedikit sebanyak membantu ku untuk menyesuaikan diri dengan pekerjaan ini. Setelah difikirkan..ada benar katanya..kenapa perlu diletakkan jurang itu..untuk pegawai muda memang ku sedar sedikit lost..mencari-cari gerak kerja yang sebetulnya..terlalu sedikit pengalaman ini jika hendak dibandingkan dengan pegawai lain yang sejawatan dengan ku..tapi bila mendapat komen dan nasihat sebegini aku mulai mencari ruang untuk melaksanakan apa yang disarankan. Sedikit-sedikit langkah ku susun dan ku doakan semoga akan sentiasa istiqamah dan lebih bahagia dengan perubahan ini. terima kasih pada yang memberi tunjuk ajar, ku percaya orang-orang sebegini didatangkan kepada ku oleh Allah swt untuk membimbing dan sebagai jawapan akan doaku. Terima kasih Ya Allah~
رَبَّنَا لاَ تُؤَاخِذْنَا إِنْ نَسِينَا أَوْ أَخْطَأْنَا رَبَّنَا وَلاَ تَحْمِلْ عَلَيْنَا إِصْرًا كَمَا حَمَلْتَهُ عَلَى الَّذِينَ مِنْ قَبْلِنَا رَبَّنَا وَلاَ تُحَمِّلْنَا مَا لاَ طَاقَةَ لَنَا بِهِ وَاعْفُ عَنَّا وَاغْفِرْ لَنَا وَارْحَمْنَا أَنْتَ مَوْلاَنَا فَانْصُرْنَا عَلَى الْقَوْمِ الْكَافِرِينَ
(Al-Baqarah : 286)
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Nabi Muhammad SAW merupakan model yang perlu kita ikuti. Islam itu syumul dan merangkumi segala perkara. Jika berkait dengan perilaku dan adab, sunnah Rasulullah adalah sumber utama kita. Adab hormat menghormati ini memang banyak..antara yang dapat ku nyatakan dari naskah 'The Ideal Muslimah';
She Respects Elders and Distinguished People
Islam brought a host of fine social rules which instill an attitude of chivalry, nobility, good manners and politeness in the heart of the Muslim. One of the most prominent of these teachings is to give due to respect to elders and those deserving respect (such as scholars, etc.)
The Muslim woman who is truly guided by Islam does not neglect to follow this most essential, basic Islamic society. Whoever lacks this quality forfeits his or her membership in this community and no longer has the honour of belonging to the ummah of Islam, as the Prophet stated:
"He does not belong to my ummah who does not honour our elders, show compassion to our young ones and pay due respect to our scholar."
Respect for elders and giving them priority over those who are younger, are indications of a community's or society's level of civility, of its members' understanding of the rules of human morality, and of their high level of good manners. This is just as true of women as it is of men. Hence the Prophet was keen to reinforce this understanding in the hearts of the Muslims, whilst he was raising the structure of the Islamic society. Among the evidence of his concern to achieve this are his words to 'Abdur-Rahman ibn Sahl, who was speaking although he was the youngest member of the delegation that had come to the Prophet. The Prophet told him,
'Let someone who is older than you speak, let someone who is older than you speak".
So Abdur-Rahman fell silent, and someone who was older than him spoke.
When the modern Muslim woman shows respect to a lady who is older than her, or honours a woman who is deserving of respect, she is doing a worthwhile moral duty that in fact is a part of workship, because honouring one's elders and those who are distinguished is part of glorifying Allah, as the Prophet said:
"Part of glorifying Allah is honouring the grey-haired (i.e older) Muslim, the one who has learnt the Qur'an by heart without exaggerating about it or ignoring its teachings, and honouring the just ruler".
By behaving in this way, the Muslim woman follows the commands of the Prophet to give people their rightful positions in the Islamic society. Imam Muslim mentions this at the beginning of his Saheeh, where he says: "It was reported that Aishah said, "The Messenger of Allah ordered us to put people in their rightful positions."
The Muslim woman should not forget that giving people their rightful positions means recognizing their positions and giving priority to elders, scholars, those who have memorised the Qur'an, those who are wise and those who are distinguished, whether they are men or women.
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Selamat Beramal~~~
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